When Time Is All It Takes to Heal

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source: inspirably.com

When I was a child, I remember about daydreaming to join battles and use magical powers.  I would launch myself in the frontline to throw water or wind elements at my opponents.  But some of the more memorable scenes are when I draw back from the fight, lay my hands filled with light to my allies and heal them.

Healing involves such a warm, calm and feminine energy which attracts me somehow.  But the process of meeting her and experiencing her gift also involves pain.  Any wound or scar reacts with tears, screaming or breaking when held by her.

I’ve went through a different kind of pain some months ago when an accident caused my busy world to be on pause.  I slipped and hit my back flat on the ground while travelling to a meeting one afternoon.  It was good that my bones haven’t been damaged, however I acquired cervical strain and some nerves particularly between my neck and shoulders has been affected.

It took me five weeks of rest, medication, enduring and therapy.  I thought it wouldn’t end when I still felt pain on the 6th or the 7th.  It varied from the feeling of having electricity crawl on my back up to my arms and legs; stiffness on my neck; a week of sleeping after every two hours to endure pain, not being able to stand or sit for too long because of the weight of my swollen back’s ; nights when I couldn’t sleep figuring how to position myself.

There were various thoughts running through my head – how to calm myself, how to heal fast, how to catch up with an ongoing restructuring in the office while I’m away, how I can still manage my business, who among my friends would remember to ask how I am during this season.

Overwhelming emotions welled up, too – loneliness, hopelessness, fear, anger.  Sometimes gratefulness would also put me at peace. I’m thankful for being at home resting and having my mom look after me. She was a sight that resembles healing aside from the medical practitioners who delivered my care.

My breath prayers were short yet drawn out from my core.  Tears would often sneak its way out of my eyes, especially at night. The thought of imagining someone embrace me puts me to sleep.

“When you don’t relax and let go, we will repeat this procedure again and again.”  I remember one of the nurse’s words when I went through an EMG test.  Electrodes should be passed on my hands, arms and legs to see if my reflexes are good.  The next procedure involved inserting some needles through my skin to check which points in my nerves are affected.

They say healing is about what you do with the time.  The next question I have in mind would be, what I have done during my healing season to fully cooperate with my recovery.  The words I can think of now resound the message I received from the nurse: relax and let go.

I could not plan, or really work on healing myself. I also perceived these as labor.  I just had to rest and follow.   Follow the doctor’s advice, listen to the person who look after and prays for me, and be sensitive enough when my body says sleep, eat, flex or play and watch a movie.

The mystery of life is that no one can really tell how long the healing season will be.  This reality applies not just to physical wounds but heartbreaks and emotional grief also.  But I sense that it helps when we accept and adjust to our condition at the earliest possible time.

I have a confession. When I was brought at the emergency room an hour after my accident, I did not follow the doctor’s advise to take medication for five days whether or not I’ll feel pain.  After finding out that my x-ray result is clear and regained strength the next morning, I did not drink my medicines and went through my normal work routine.  The pain attacked again five days later, went on and I could’t stop it.

Only when a person knows that he is sick is the time that he will seek a doctor.  If he isn’t aware or acknowledge his condition, he wouldn’t desire to treat himself.  Some are just stubborn to keep going in life without stopping for cure. I was, stubborn.

Moving forward with a renewed strength, I realized healing is something you don’t have to access only when you’re in a wounded situation.   She’s present when you surround yourself with beautiful things, listen to positive music, hold a loved one, move your body to run, speak kind words and season life with good taste.

Healing is an ability each one of us is blessed with, and we need it in this world if we truly want to live. You don’t need to wait on time for it to arrive. It’s already with you.

Dating Tips: Trick Him or Treat Her Right

How do you impress someone in 5 minutes and make him or her ask you out on a date?

It’s a mystery how a new person you meet can get your attention and move you out of your comfort zone. Not everyone would find courage to ask for a phone number, or a name, or engage in a small talk .  I used to be one of them.  But the good news is, learning the “confidence trick” when it comes to interacting with the opposite sex is is a matter of practice.

I’ve attended some speed dating events in the past and I regard it as an avenue to master the “confidence trick” I’m talking about.  If you’re going to one soon, or want to talk to that hottie you always see at the hallway of your school or office, I have  two advice to make things easier for you.

Learn the Basic Tricks (a.k.a Tips)

Don’t be afraid to initiate conversation.  A simple compliment about his or her feature (nice smile, resemblance to a celebrity etc) will break the ice. This can be followed by a short engaging chat especially if the other person is responsive.  Ladies, I think we can do this one.  Don’t expect the guys to always greet you first.

When asked how you are, don’t answer with the cold and usual “I’m fine.”  Say something that could leave a hint of mystery, and would prompt a smile, make him wonder or even make a follow up question.  Dropping a compliment would also be nice.

Okay okay.. I’m writing down a sample scenario.

Assume that you took the same elevator in your condo and the confident young hunk or lady you ‘re crushing on initiated with a simple “Hi and how are you?”.   Instead of just saying, “Fine, how about you”, at least answer back with “I feel awesome.  I’m excited to cook a new recipe I learned on the internet.”  This reply left an impression about you (that you must be great with food); and would be curious to ask back.  This would start some exchange of words.  And if the conversation would turn out great, it may even lead to you inviting her for dinner some time. ;)

Treat Him or Her Right

I have a simple definition to this “treat someone right” rule.  It happens when the other person would have a happy, positive feeling before you leave his or her company.  And that moment doesn’t have to be long or require a grand effort.  A 5-minute interaction can make someone feel amazing and important.

Remember when a security guard greets you with a warm smile when you pass by.. or when your boss would give you a pat on your back after doing your job well?  Those are simple acts that make us feel acknowledged. And you can do that more often, not just with someone you’re trying to date.

I believe we all have a capacity to make someone feel good especially if we make ourselves more open to give and receive.  We give, when we think of the other person’s welfare.  And we receive, when we accept gratitude and kind gestures from others.

Well, if you’re game for a TRICK OR TREAT (Dating) ADVENTURE, I have an event here that might interest you:

Mystery Affair Telu Events

Let me know how your social experiment (others call it flirting) goes.  I hope you’d let your personality shine and notice someone out there who’s into you >> (uhm, this calls for another post).. hehe

Cheers!! XOXO


P.S. I’m single and still learning my path to dating. Things aren’t perfect but I’m having fun while at it.  Just bring out your best attitude.  ;-)

I’m Moving On From My Breakup

Dear Flaring Feliciters,

I recently discovered that publishing e-books on Kindle Amazon is way too easy!  I started my e-book journey just this month and uploaded two already.  If you’re on Amazon, please grab a copy of the first book I wrote, “I’m Moving On From My Breakup.”  It costs 2.99USD but you can read it for free until today.


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Check out my ebook here.

Whatever You Do

I could have been
a writer, a musician..
a chef, a painter..
a model, a photographer..
an actress, a dancer..
a foreign language teacher..
a fitness trainer..
a tour guide..

the artist in me just wants to DO A LOT.

I realized sometimes we focus more on
what we could do than who we could have been.

These are two different things.

I don’t want to be defined by what I do, I want people to remember me for who I am.


Last night, I asked the Lord about what he is preparing me to do in the next months and years.  I have my own goals, own timeline, but I just get frustrated since what I want isn’t happening at the phase I want.  That’s when the thoughts of “I could have been” bugged my mind.

I was even questioning my past decisions, the career path I took, and where I am today.

I know being anxious is getting me nowhere. I cannot change what already transpired. The least I can do is get relief through seeking direction about the future.

The answer I got in prayer wasn’t what I expected.  I sought the scriptures and was encouraged to look within, and put more importance on who I am, than what I do.  The phrase WHATEVER YOU DO from Colossians 3:23 still echoes in my mind, and reminds me that my character matters more than my job.

“Your attitude is more important than your skills. Work on it more. It opens to a world of opportunities.” The quote from my favorite motivational speaker Francis Kong agrees with the idea.

Don’t get me wrong, we spend 8 hours a day and more than 40 hours a week for our jobs hence we should really consider our occupation to be something we enjoy doing and utilize our skills. Our work should also be seen as a means to achieve a greater purpose, it is not the end-goal.


We just all want to be successful, don’t we?  And we also have different definitions of success.  I’m still in the process of defining mine.  Don’t expect our points of view to be the same.  I will create my own definition, or else I will be swayed by how other people sees it to be.

At this point, pursuing success is tiring.  Instead of something to aim for, I’d like to look at it as a result that will follow me if I keep a heart of service and gratitude.  And yeah, I’ve been working hard but need to change to working smart soon (now searching google on tips to work smart)

Yes, I can still pursue my game plan and sail towards WHATEVER PATH I want.  I’ll do it with a more relaxed attitude this time.  In the end, this journey isn’t just about our personal happiness. I believe we are called for more.

whatever you do